Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Levels of intimacy
People need intimacy. I don’t know what the reason for people to have it but what I know for sure is that there is no such a person who would feel okay about the lack of it in his or her life. Though, there are different kinds of intimacy and there are actually such kinds you may not recognize as intimacy. There are people who make out just like that because they need this physical feeling and they need this physical activity. It is the lowest level of intimacy and to my mind there is no way to call it intimacy, it is more like an exercise or something. And the second level of intimacy is when people care about a person they make out with. They are nit people who are ready to have intimacy with any person they see but they have chosen this one and they need him or her right now. But, this kind is also more of physical feelings people have. And the third level of intimacy is colored with emotional intimacy people have and when they are making out it is the emotional stress they need and the real pleasure for them.
The place of intimacy
Most people are talking about love and sacred feelings they have towards each other. Everyone says that love is the greatest value and intimacy is of no importance in case there is love, but indeed people are acting the different way. They fall in love and they know it is a person they were looking for and they have relationships and so on. They have relationships and everything is great with those except…except the intimacy. One feels that it is not enough of something in their sexual life and people are going someplace else looking for that something they miss. They cheat on those people they love and they do it all the time looking for sexual satisfaction. People betray those they love and those who trust then for the sake of sexual satisfaction. So, tell me know of it is love people really care about? I guess such a behavior has nothing to do with love because people betray love for the sake of sexual satisfaction and if it is so than intimacy but not love occupies first place in relationships of people. So, what you were telling about we are different from animals?
Friday, April 24, 2009
What you should do if your wife lost her emotional intimacy
I have heard a talk of two of my colleagues in the canteen who probably didn’t realize that I hear them. One complained to another that he is all horny and turned on all the time and his wife started not to show much response when they making love. He asked his friend for an advice of some women’s Viagra!
It was sadly to hear and even more sadly not be able to come and talk to him about what I can recommend him to do. So when I came I put my computer on and now writing all you husbands in the same situation my hearted advice what to do.
You guys seem to me to confuse sexual intimacy with emotional one. That guy who sat in the canteen I know what his wife is when she comes home after work she sees tons of things to do in the house, kids and you to feed then maybe half an hour of TV and after that she wants only sleeping. To make her feel emotional intimacy you need to get her out of this everyday routine. Don’t you remember yourself when you were trying to get your arm under her skirt first time! Make her feel that she is what you care of! Try to get rid of everyday house work problem inviting a cleaning service. When your wife comes home and sees that she is free from everyday home routine invite her to place outsides, to the restaurant or organize a picnic for only two of you. Don’t be too fast with your desires when she would see that you’ve done all that for her and be admired: or she would feel bought and used. Give her a time to feel the intimacy and then her desire would rise to your level.
I hope that one of you guys would hear what I am roaring here! Good luck and love your wives!
It was sadly to hear and even more sadly not be able to come and talk to him about what I can recommend him to do. So when I came I put my computer on and now writing all you husbands in the same situation my hearted advice what to do.
You guys seem to me to confuse sexual intimacy with emotional one. That guy who sat in the canteen I know what his wife is when she comes home after work she sees tons of things to do in the house, kids and you to feed then maybe half an hour of TV and after that she wants only sleeping. To make her feel emotional intimacy you need to get her out of this everyday routine. Don’t you remember yourself when you were trying to get your arm under her skirt first time! Make her feel that she is what you care of! Try to get rid of everyday house work problem inviting a cleaning service. When your wife comes home and sees that she is free from everyday home routine invite her to place outsides, to the restaurant or organize a picnic for only two of you. Don’t be too fast with your desires when she would see that you’ve done all that for her and be admired: or she would feel bought and used. Give her a time to feel the intimacy and then her desire would rise to your level.
I hope that one of you guys would hear what I am roaring here! Good luck and love your wives!
Thursday, March 5, 2009
Sexual Relations
Intimacy is more than mere sexual contact and a few shared secrets. Intimacy is an evolving and growing process that requires a bit of dedication from both sides of the couple that few of us really pay attention to. As life takes over our daily yearnings and we engage in the world in some responsible manner, we can often feel that intimacy falls down farther and farther on our list of current needs. When we let the intimacy din in our relationships we often find that there isn’t much left. Rekindling that intimacy can be done and usually, if you catch it rather early, it can be done with just a little attention.
A partner needs to know that they are valued, appreciated, loved, and respected. While you and your partner may experience long periods without sexual contact, intimacy does not need to fall to the wayside. Physical connection is important but so is emotional connection. Connecting with a partner several times a day, even in short bursts of energy can help easy intimacy strains. Passionate kisses, shared secrets, and time for simply being present and engaged without distractions can help bolster that fantastic feeling you used to get when your partner was around.
Maintaining a relationship with honest intimacy means remembering, that your relationship will not maintain itself. Life can be very stressful and there may be a lot on your plate. However, without the intimate and clear connection between you and your partner, that stressful business can eventually wipe out even a solid relationship.
A partner needs to know that they are valued, appreciated, loved, and respected. While you and your partner may experience long periods without sexual contact, intimacy does not need to fall to the wayside. Physical connection is important but so is emotional connection. Connecting with a partner several times a day, even in short bursts of energy can help easy intimacy strains. Passionate kisses, shared secrets, and time for simply being present and engaged without distractions can help bolster that fantastic feeling you used to get when your partner was around.
Maintaining a relationship with honest intimacy means remembering, that your relationship will not maintain itself. Life can be very stressful and there may be a lot on your plate. However, without the intimate and clear connection between you and your partner, that stressful business can eventually wipe out even a solid relationship.
Friday, January 30, 2009
Sensual Magnetism of the Just-Met
And if we just met, suspicions of improper intent, only strengthened. While is inappropriate? Rejoice that you first see an interesting woman, rather than a worm or a scientific perspective business woman. Well, if you were important to him as a tick in a big list of brilliant victories, not in a hurry to mourn and to believe that it is you, "used." In the end, you do too, for whatever reasons, have agreed to this evening, so it is fully entitled to the hypocritical sad sigh to myself: of course, so you can not treat people, but to be honest with myself, I use it, and now it is uninteresting to me. By the way, namely the "winners" are telephone (so put on etiquette), but not calls back.
Thoughts like "I is not enough beautiful, intelligent, sexual" deprived of any meaning. You can be Cindy Crawford, Madonna in one person - and still do not hear the proposal to meet again. Just invaders uninteresting defeated a second time to take the fortress.
How to behave then? Wise women, there is an unwritten rule: no matter how late a date, should be sure to spend the night at home. Of course, without someone you hardly are beau. Let the clock is at least two hours of the night, at least four morning, but ask him to show gallantry and bring you home. In this case, you can avoid those annoying little things, like cosmetics trite, the absence of a toothbrush and blemishes blouse. In addition, yesterday's romantic gentleman of very different looks in the light of day: unshaven and sleepy. If you are still awake in his bed and did not manage to escape or did not want to do, it's best to greet the morning with enthusiasm - in a good mood, happy and cheerful.
Thoughts like "I is not enough beautiful, intelligent, sexual" deprived of any meaning. You can be Cindy Crawford, Madonna in one person - and still do not hear the proposal to meet again. Just invaders uninteresting defeated a second time to take the fortress.
How to behave then? Wise women, there is an unwritten rule: no matter how late a date, should be sure to spend the night at home. Of course, without someone you hardly are beau. Let the clock is at least two hours of the night, at least four morning, but ask him to show gallantry and bring you home. In this case, you can avoid those annoying little things, like cosmetics trite, the absence of a toothbrush and blemishes blouse. In addition, yesterday's romantic gentleman of very different looks in the light of day: unshaven and sleepy. If you are still awake in his bed and did not manage to escape or did not want to do, it's best to greet the morning with enthusiasm - in a good mood, happy and cheerful.
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